Updated: Dec 31, 2020
Every day we meet so many people at work, personal life, some of them because of our kids, so many acquaintances, etc.
With how many do you really make a connection?
Do you really make connections with whom you feel comfortable sharing a meaningful thought or these are mere conversations made because we co-exist in society?
Do you have loads of friends but then also you have a closed circle of friends reserved for deeper interactions?
If yes, you are one among many like me who share the trait.
Closing in on the teen's years, forming a group or for the lack of a better word “gang” was an important step in college.
Closing in on the teen's years, forming a group or for the lack of a better word “gang” was an important step in college. It is quite a tango and takes time to find the right moves because it is the first time ever you see so many possibilities and notably from so many diverse backgrounds. The group doesn’t mold easily, it takes some additions and reductions overtime before it takes a final shape. In this process, commitment is one key aspect. The group purely operates on a commitment to the cause. Any plans expected all hands on the deck every single time.
The small plot’s as they look today gave a lot of adrenaline rush. It could be a simple plan to sneak out of the home and wishing someone a birthday at the midnight, an effort to finish some else’s assignment, a whole night of study before an exam, cover up a buddy feigning illness, being a party to a prank in the class, go to visit someone’s native or an organized tour, etc. Any plan small or big for the age was possible because it involved picking the brain of the wise – as we imagined us. While academics were a cruise anything non-academic was beyond excellence.
A commitment to friendship and a commitment to self to honor the promise.
We stuck thick. We learned the ability to place faith in each other, confide secrets, and trust someone without holding back, to commit and to honor it even when the chips were down. This blanket of confidence was unique to every other group which had held itself for long. Time catches up faster than you imagine everyone turned out successful, built families, built relationships, etc. The group remained intact, interactions were down because of life events but certainly, the soul remained intact.
Looking back, what is that it worked that has kept us in the circle for decades, it points back to a simple trait - commitment, a trust that has been built over the years by commitment. A commitment to friendship and a commitment to self to honor the promise. The circle of trust exists even today because of the commitment over the years that stands as a testament and in fact, it’s the only thing that lives up to a testament.
Make good friends, commit to good relationships, value your friendship, respect any relation and above all hold your commitments high – it speaks volumes. It is the backbone to sustain any successful relationship.